“You swore you loved me, and laughed and warned me that you would not love me forever.
I did not hear you. You were speaking in a language I did not understand. Never, never, I can conceive of a love which is able to foresee its own termination. Love is its own eternity. Love is in every moment of its being: all time. It is the only glimpse we are permitted of what eternity is. So I did not hear you. The words were nonsense.”
― Thornton Wilder, The Ides of March “never, never
Peggy Gravel: Hello? What number are you calling? You’ve dialed the wrong number! Sorry? What good is that? How can you ever repay the last thirty seconds you have stolen from my life? I hate you, your husband, your children, and your relatives!!! Desperate Living this week tasted like toenail. and i’m glad it’s almost over. hoping i don’t have to experience it again. sad i lost those 4 days. even less fun was feeling like a fly in a spider’s web or a guinea pig in a first gr
It is better to travel well than to arrive.
Buddha “The experience of being a gay man in the twenty-first century is different from that of any other minority, sexual orientation, gender, or culture grouping. We are different from, on the one hand, women, and on the other hand, straight men. Our lives are a unique blending of testosterone and gentleness, hypersexuality and delicate sensuality, rugged masculinity and refined gentility. There is no other group quite like that o
“Sometimes you need to sit lonely on the floor in a quiet room in order to hear your own voice and not let it drown in the noise of others.”
― Charlotte Eriksson i met my best friend in 1980 at an after hours club named “columns” located on south michigan avenue in chicago. it was synchronicity once we started chatting. conversation and the exchange of ideas were as easy as breathing for me. we so enjoyed talking that after closing we walked along lake shore drive up to the l
“If someone comes along and shoots an arrow into your heart, it’s fruitless to stand there and yell at the person. It would be much better to turn your attention to the fact that there’s an arrow in your heart…”
― Pema Chödrön, Start Where You Are: A Guide to Compassionate Living Sentimental people see the world With the gentleness of fools Wishful thinking makes the days go by Every minute is a lullaby It’s the Easy Thing To Do It’s the Easy Thing To Do And the Easy Thing To
“Consider the subtleness of the sea; how its most dreaded creatures glide under water, unapparent for the most part, and treacherously hidden beneath the loveliest tints of azure. Consider also the devilish brilliance and beauty of many of its most remorseless tribes, as the dainty embellished shape of many species of sharks. Consider, once more, the universal cannibalism of the sea; all whose creatures prey upon each other, carrying on eternal war since the world began.
Mosh pits Annotated bare chest
Stage diving sky diver
Spray the crowd with cold water
Now it’s mosh pits and wet tits
I think I need a cold shower
African girl speaks in English accent
Likes to fuck boys in bands
Likes to watch Westerns
And ride me without the hands
Show me her passport
She’s on her own tour
But you’re beautiful to me
Wave em high girl to the sky
But you’re beautiful to me
Live in the clouds
Wave em high girl, to the sky
But you’re beautiful to me
Thirty of the Most Frequently Asked Questions about Recovery and Recovery-Oriented Practice(along with some beginning answers)
Do people really recover? And if so, why don’t I see them?
Is recovery evidence based?
How is recovery-oriented care different from simply implementing evidence-based practices?
How is recovery different from psychiatric or psychosocial rehabilitation?
How does recovery-oriented practice relate to the medical model or clinical care?
Is the recovery mo
We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as impossible situations.” ~Charles R. Swindoll as i maneuver through the last few hours of an excruciating day, i am reminded that is is rarely my way. this is usually the case, but somehow i forget this over and over. an i am certain i will continue to forget as that is really my nature. i worked a party until 11p in castle pines last night. i had carpooled with some colleagues and was not within my
Whatever your life’s work is, do it well. A man should do his job so well that the living, the dead, and the unborn could do it no better…. Martin Luther King Jr. there is always the story of jonah and the whale. jonah would symbolize man in general and the whale might represent life itself. sometimes life become so big it swallows us up. we find ourselves trapped in its belly and flitting between frozen with fear and struggling to get out. i think i have been in this kind of
“There is nothing more dreadful than the habit of doubt. Doubt separates people. It is a poison that disintegrates friendships and breaks up pleasant relations. It is a thorn that irritates and hurts; it is a sword that kills.” there is no where to run from myself. i have been buzzing like an old fashioned telephone wire wondering what the next few days will bring as i wait to hear about a possible position. i don’t really have a plan beyond this one. it’s been 3 weeks since
“Life is glorious, but life is also wretched. It is both. Appreciating the gloriousness inspires us, encourages us, cheers us up, gives us a bigger perspective, energizes us. We feel connected. But if that’s all that’s happening, we get arrogant and start to look down on others, and there is a sense of making ourselves a big deal and being really serious about it, wanting it to be like that forever. The gloriousness becomes tinged by craving and addiction. On the other hand,
“Perhaps the biggest tragedy of our lives is that freedom is possible, yet we can pass our years trapped in the same old patterns…We may want to love other people without holding back, to feel authentic, to breathe in the beauty around us, to dance and sing. Yet each day we listen to inner voices that keep our life small.”
― Tara Brach, Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha one thing i have come to know closely this last onth is that when i make e
One great question underlies our experience, whether we think about it or not: what is the purpose of life? From the moment of birth every human being wants happiness and does not want suffering. Neither social conditioning nor education nor ideology affects this. From the very core of our being, we simply desire contentment. Therefore, it is important to discover what will bring about the greatest degree of happiness
By Dalai Lama there is a balance within my moods which is
After nearly four decades together, Ben (John Lithgow) and George (Alfred Molina) finally tie the knot in an idyllic wedding ceremony in lower Manhattan. But when George loses his job soon after, the couple must sell their apartment and – victims of the relentless New York City real estate market – temporarily live apart until they can find an affordable new home. While George moves in with two cops (Cheyenne Jackson and Manny Perez) who live down stairs, Ben lands in Brookly
What is like a smelly fart,
that, although invisible is obvious?
One’s own faults, that are precisely
As obvious as the effort made to hide them.”
His Holiness the 7th Dalai Lama in ‘Songs of spiritual change’ there are times that a guy just needs to let go of his conscious self and act on instinct. i believe i am at one of those personal milestones. no guarantees. no safety net. just fear. and faith. no doubts. and no regrets. hey now. hey now. it’s gotta be now. it’s gotta
When you stop trying to change others and work on changing yourself, your world changes for the better. have been reviewing so much this autumn. i have changed the color of the interior of my home and am in the process of editing furnishings, changing window coverings, installing a new kitchen door as well as a security door. next will be hardwood floors and re-doing the bathroom. in consideration is selling my current home and finding a place a little bigger and a little in